Teach Them to Forgive

Dear Parents,

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is the ability to forgive. In a world filled with conflicts and misunderstandings, teaching our little ones how to let go of anger and resentment is a priceless lesson that will serve them throughout their lives.

Growing up, my own mother imparted this invaluable wisdom to me and my siblings. She had a unique way of handling disagreements among us. She would sit us down, listen to both sides of the story, and then gently guide us towards understanding and forgiveness. She taught us that holding onto anger and resentment only poisons our hearts and relationships.

The Early Lessons

My mother's approach wasn't about dismissing our pain or taking sides. It was about empathy and helping us release the negative emotions that were holding us hostage. She would encourage us to pray for healing and peace, not only for ourselves but also for the person who had hurt us. And she always reminded us that forgiveness is pleasing to God.

I didn't fully appreciate the power of her teachings until I met my husband, who came from a family where siblings were divided, and grudges were held for years. I realized that my mother had done something right by teaching us to understand and value each other's feelings and views.

Teaching Forgiveness to Our Own Children

Now, as a mother myself, I've carried forward these lessons and applied them in my own family. When my children have disagreements or hurt each other's feelings, I don't dismiss their pain, and I don't accuse anyone. I listen, empathize, and guide them towards forgiveness.

I explain to them that forgiveness doesn't make the wrong right, but it sets them free from the hurt. I teach them to pray for healing and peace for themselves and the person who hurt them. I let them know that forgiveness is always a choice and that it may take more than one prayer to reach full forgiveness.

The Transformative Impact

The impact of teaching forgiveness to our children is profound. My own children have a strong bond with each other. They don't hold grudges or resentments. They understand that forgiveness doesn't condone the wrong but releases them from the pain. They've learned that forgiveness is a choice, and it's pleasing to God.

As a result, they find it easier to forgive others outside the family, like school peers, and they carry this valuable lesson into adulthood. They've grasped the importance of forgiveness early on, making it easier for them to live free of anger and resentment.

A Resource for Parents

For parents who wish to embark on this journey of nurturing forgiveness in their children, I've created a resource titled "Firm Foundation: Nurturing Forgiveness in Your Children." This guide will help you teach your children about forgiveness at an early age and continue those teachings throughout their upbringing.

Remember, teaching forgiveness is not just about resolving conflicts; it's about giving our children a gift for a lifetime. By starting early and emphasizing the importance of forgiveness, they'll notice the benefits as they grow up and carry this essential skill into adulthood.

In closing, let's remember that in a world that often values anger and resentment, teaching our children to forgive is an act of love and wisdom. It's a gift that will not only transform their lives but also contribute to a more harmonious and forgiving world.

With love and blessings,

Jully Provenzano